I don’t really like the way we develop relationships in society anymore. Maybe it’s because I’m old fashioned but the whole idea of meaningless hook ups for temporary satisfaction creates more problems than solutions to me. But even before that, the whole idea of a crush has completely changed its meaning too. Nowadays, we only like someone for their body, or for shallow reasons when nobody really tries to court someone anymore. What happened to the idea of going steady? Now, people just hook up, hoping these one night stands develop into something more or nothing at all. Not saying a relationship can’t come out of that, but why does it have to be that way now? We’ve all lost our innocence. And the more we do it, the more it becomes acceptable. If I tried to actually really date a girl and court her, I’d probably get weird looks from that girl or other people. I’ve recently developed a crush on probably one of the sweetest girls I’ve ever met. Everything about her is adorable. From her smile, to her little giggles, to the way she cutely says sorry every time she accidentally hits me or something, to the way her nose wrinkles when she makes that face, to her playful personality, to her clever and witty jokes; I love every aspect about her. Maybe it’s because I’ve actually gotten to know her and really accept all of her and her flaws, just as I feel that she’s slowly starting to accept mine. But just because I like all these things about her, doesn’t mean I’m expecting something out of her or from our friendship. I just know that having a crush on someone means wanting to spend time with someone because you genuinely enjoy their presence, that liking someone means liking them for all of them and not just the good parts, that the nice things you do for each other are because you’re both generous people and expect nothing in return, and that when you do want to show affection, you do it with the little things like being a good listener and remembering how that person mentioned they liked a certain artist, that their hometown is a little place that not many people know about but they tell people they’re from the bigger, more known place next to it, that they don’t like crying because they can’t stop once they start, even if it’s something little, or that they’re best friend went to the same high school as them and they borrow each other’s clothes because they’re around the same size. Forgive me for making this sound like I love this person, but I do believe this is what having a crush should be like. None of this hook up culture nonsense, but more of real, genuine feelings and dating. I admit, I don’t have a solution and I know some people may not agree with my opinions but I just think that society should bring back the value of innocence and respect it once had. That’s all. We’re just too caught up in each other’s physical qualities than each other.